“Although many of us have goals, few have made a love connection to them. Without a connection, goals can easily become meaningless burdens or dreams we never accomplish”.– Jocelyn Giangrande
With Valentine’s Day around the corner and love in the air, it’s a great time to fall in love with your New Year’s goals. Although many of us have goals, few of us have formed a love connection to them.
Below are three ways to help you get connected to your goals and fall in love:
1. Be specific: If you’re familiar with SMART goals, you know about being specific. However, we often underestimate the importance of this step. When we write goals, many of us believe they’re specific enough to get us moving. I beg to differ. Check out the difference between a basic goal and a specific goal:
Basic Goal: To purchase a condo.
Specific Goal: To purchase a detached split-level condo in 12 months with 2-3 bedrooms, 2 baths, in Oakland county, for $125,000, etc………….. (You get the point).
The more specific, the more you’re able to see yourself accomplishing the goal and you can plan strategically. That brings you and your goal closer together.
2. Answer “Why?” Few of us answer the question “Why?” we have the goal in the first place. Why is the goal important and what are you trying to accomplish? Answering them brings meaning to your goals and helps ensure that what you’re working on and trying to accomplish, are aligned. It also helps to prioritize. That way you work on what really matters.
3. Make it visible. Motivational speaker Tony Robbins once said; “Goals make the invisible, visible.” I would add, “Only if you can see it.” Therefore, visualize yourself accomplishing the goal. how it feels, how it looks. Get as vivid as possible. This practice helps make an emotional connection and bring it to life.
Just having a goal is not enough. Falling in love, makes it attainable, meaningful, and emotionally engaging. That goes a long way in bringing you closer to it and the love connection that makes it worthwhile.
Hi Jocelyn,
I just want to add one more one point to your great post: make your goals visible too. Write them down and update them every day or every week to chart your progress and to see if you are truly getting there or are your goals changing. Often people will notice that their goals do change with time, and the can be a great thing. The condo may turn into a mansion.